A Passion for Community Service

The family law attorneys at Ward Potter LLC, share a passion for community service. Each attorney spends time outside of the office serving individuals and organizations in and around the Wichita community. Previous community service projects include leading a mentorship project with Hamilton Middle School. In 2012, Ward Potter (previously Ward Law Offices, LLC), was honored with the Wichita Public Schools Board of Education Good Apple Award for excellence in service to students. In addition to their collective community service work, each attorney at Ward Potter serves in various ways individually in Wichita and across Kansas.
Below is a sampling of some of the organizations our attorneys and staff work with to improve our community and help the people in our community in need of not only legal services but help in other areas of life.

Junior League of Wichita

Lynn Ward is not only the Managing Partner of Ward Potter LLC. She is a Past President of the Junior League of Wichita. Lynn and the staff of Ward Potter were pleased to support the Junior League of Wichita in their fight against child abuse by supporting the Junior League of Wichita’s 16th Annual Holiday Galleria, a shopping experience for the whole family October 3-6, 2019 at Century II in downtown Wichita.

The 3rd Annual Show Pride in Your Ride Car Show was an unforgettable evening! With the support of our guests and donors we raised over $2400 for OK Elementary School and Black Traditional Elementary! Special thanks to the following businesses who donated wonderful items for the raffle or provided support of our event: Hereford House, Plastic Surgery Center, Hall’s Culligan, South Central Kansas Mustang Club, Joe’s Car Wash, USD 259, Big Tool Store, and Janet Evans.

On Friday, March 29th Ward Potter LLC and the Wichita Thunder joined forces to support the Guadalupe Clinic at Intrust Bank Arena.

The 2018 Show Pride in Your Ride event was held on Friday, September 7. All proceeds from the 2018 event benefited Pando. The Pando Initiative has been successfully connecting with more than 200,000 students in area schools since 1990. Their core model focuses on individual students who are struggling with school and life. They position a dedicated staff member inside partner schools in Wichita, Derby and Haysville public schools.

On September 15, 2017 Ward Law Offices hosted the first annual Show Pride In Your Ride car show. Show Pride In Your Ride was an informal, non-judged car show for friends, neighbors and colleagues of Ward Law Offices, LLC. During the event, Ward Law partnered with officials from United Methodist Open Door who held a raffle. Car Show attendees were able to purchase tickets for a chance to win a Richard Petty Driving Experience at Kansas Speedway. All proceeds from the evening’s raffle benefited Open Door. The focus of Open Door is to meet the basic needs of people in poverty. Their Homeless Resource Center, at 402 E. 2nd Street, is a daytime assistance center for the homeless, where individuals receive case management, a daily meal, access to showers, laundry and storage facilities, and mail service.

Passion Projects – Two Lives at a Time & The Refugee/Immigrant Outreach Team

Lynn Ward, Board of Directors of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and Stephen Blaylock, fellow of the Kansas Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers present a check to Laura Roddy, President of Junior League of Wichita; and Jessica Williams, Junior League of Wichita grant writing  chair. Ward was presenting to Roddy a check for $5000 from the AAML Foundation for the JLW Two Lives at a Time project. The Junior League of Wichita and the Wichita Children’s Home will help teen moms develop crucial life skills, including how to build healthy relationships and effective parenting practices.

The Curse of Neutrality

 

Recently I wrote some articles on my theory of the five tenets, and one of those tenets is being positive. After the article posted a few people contacted me telling me how hard they thought it was to be positive, and perhaps I was not being realistic given the circumstances.

My first thought was, “Really? People other than my mom read these articles?” But after the surprise wore off, I started to think, and maybe re-think, about being positive. To be honest, this is really still a thought in progress, but I do see the point. Being positive is very difficult, especially if there is an established track record of negativity. However, being positive is important, even more so when negativity is the “norm.” But more on that in a minute.

Changing behaviors for me is very difficult, and my guess is I am not alone, given the number of self-help books, websites, apps, and podcasts available addressing every aspect of mental health and physical health imaginable. Research shows how continuous thought, positive or negative, establishes pathways in our brains to the point it becomes a habit. For me, I think about a dirt road and ruts worn deeply enough the wheels automatically slide into them when you drive that road, and just how hard it is to steer out of those ruts if you want to change direction.

What the research talks about is how we can change the way we think, changing those ruts, if we want to. That we are not destined to be or think a certain way. I think the research is interesting (fascinating, really), and I would encourage you to review it and use what you like. The key to the idea though seems to be we can change if we want to, and I think there are three aspects to that thought. First, while we might say we want to change, and maybe we truly mean it, I think the question comes down to how bad do we want it? Secondly, if we want to change, how do we go about it? Third, how do we keep the change in place? To make it even more fun, it does not happen overnight, or maybe even over the years, if that is a term. It is going to take time.

So what do we do in the meantime? What do we do when we just do not have it in us to be positive? Is that a failure? Is this really going to work? Do I want it to work? I really just want it to stop!

Okay, okay. Breathe. In, out. In, out. In, out.

I think it will work, but for those days when positivity is not an option, or at least not an immediate option, how about going halfway? How about consciously making the decision to not do something positive or negative? Granted, that will be difficult in and of itself, but maybe it will not be as difficult that we revert to the negative. Maybe trying to put off the response, for now, to allow yourself time to process, and get to a place where you can be positive. Not to delay, not to use the time to frustrate the other person or seem like you are stalling, but to take some actual time to think about what your negative response would be, why you do not want to make that response, and then possibly reframe it into something positive.

If the “norm” referenced above is to respond negatively, and if the “norm” has not been working, why not try something different? Granted, being positive, and actually meaning it may not be possible. And really, that is okay. If I do not feel positive, then I should not have to manufacture that feeling just so someone else can be comfortable. All that will do is make me resentful of the communication and likely make me seem disingenuous later if I try to take it back. And to be fair they would be right; I mean, I said X, and they relied upon X, so X should be the rule.

But if we take a step back, tell the other person we need some time to consider a response, and possibly even the reason we need the time, ultimately everyone should be better off. The other person is probably not going to like giving that time, at least at the outset. Maybe they have an agenda or timeline, and by not responding as quickly as they wanted, we are throwing that timeline off. Understandable, but everyone’s timeline should be respected. If good communication is to be had, then a little grace needs to be shown when someone needs more time to think and formulate a response. And really, the other person probably has been thinking and formulating their statement for some time, so it would only be fair you have the same time to process and respond, right? Because if not, then maybe the other person is not really wanting to communicate openly and fairly. If they cannot see why you would need time, and how that time might actually help the process move quicker if you can come to an agreement, then they may not have your best interests in mind.

It’s tough. Not responding when a thought is clearly formed in your mind, especially when the other person is seemingly wrong, possibly aggressive, or just plain being a jerk. And maybe your first response will be right. Maybe it will “win” the argument, and the other person will have a lightbulb moment of clarity. That is not my experience though. I need a little time to give my best response. That is what the other person deserves, but just as importantly, it is what I deserve.

 


Tony A. Potter is a Member of Ward Potter LLC, where he uses his experiences in general civil, trial, and appellate practice to represent clients. Tony received his Juris Doctorate from Washburn School of Law in 1994 and has been continually licensed to practice law in Kansas since 1995. Tony is a member of the Kansas Bar Association, the Wichita Bar Association, the Northwest Kansas Bar Association, and the Chair of the Wichita Bar Association Family Law Committee. His commitment to his clients was also recognized in 2018 when he was acknowledged as an “AV” attorney, peer-rated for high professional achievement by Martindale-Hubbell, and he enjoys a 10.0 rating from the Avvo attorney website. Contact Tony

Ward Potter LLC is a family law firm located in Wichita, Kansas. Ward Potter handles divorce, child custody, parenting time, prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, visitation by grandparents, and paternity cases. The firm also provides litigation alternatives such as collaborative family law, mediation, and arbitration. The mission of Ward Potter LLC is to guide clients through changes in their families with empathy, excellence, and expertise. We strive to calm chaos and focus on the resolution, not the battle.

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A Passion for Community Service

The family law attorneys at Ward Potter LLC, share a passion for community service. Each attorney spends time outside of the office serving individuals and organizations in and around the Wichita community. Previous community service projects include leading a mentorship project with Hamilton Middle School. In 2012, Ward Potter (previously Ward Law Offices, LLC), was honored with the Wichita Public Schools Board of Education Good Apple Award for excellence in service to students. In addition to their collective community service work, each attorney at Ward Potter serves in various ways individually in Wichita and across Kansas.
Below is a sampling of some of the organizations our attorneys and staff work with to improve our community and help the people in our community in need of not only legal services but help in other areas of life.

Junior League of Wichita

Lynn Ward is not only the Managing Partner of Ward Potter LLC. She is a Past President of the Junior League of Wichita. Lynn and the staff of Ward Potter were pleased to support the Junior League of Wichita in their fight against child abuse by supporting the Junior League of Wichita’s 16th Annual Holiday Galleria, a shopping experience for the whole family October 3-6, 2019 at Century II in downtown Wichita.

The 3rd Annual Show Pride in Your Ride Car Show was an unforgettable evening! With the support of our guests and donors we raised over $2400 for OK Elementary School and Black Traditional Elementary! Special thanks to the following businesses who donated wonderful items for the raffle or provided support of our event: Hereford House, Plastic Surgery Center, Hall’s Culligan, South Central Kansas Mustang Club, Joe’s Car Wash, USD 259, Big Tool Store, and Janet Evans.

On Friday, March 29th Ward Potter LLC and the Wichita Thunder joined forces to support the Guadalupe Clinic at Intrust Bank Arena.

The 2018 Show Pride in Your Ride event was held on Friday, September 7. All proceeds from the 2018 event benefited Pando. The Pando Initiative has been successfully connecting with more than 200,000 students in area schools since 1990. Their core model focuses on individual students who are struggling with school and life. They position a dedicated staff member inside partner schools in Wichita, Derby and Haysville public schools.

On September 15, 2017 Ward Law Offices hosted the first annual Show Pride In Your Ride car show. Show Pride In Your Ride was an informal, non-judged car show for friends, neighbors and colleagues of Ward Law Offices, LLC. During the event, Ward Law partnered with officials from United Methodist Open Door who held a raffle. Car Show attendees were able to purchase tickets for a chance to win a Richard Petty Driving Experience at Kansas Speedway. All proceeds from the evening’s raffle benefited Open Door. The focus of Open Door is to meet the basic needs of people in poverty. Their Homeless Resource Center, at 402 E. 2nd Street, is a daytime assistance center for the homeless, where individuals receive case management, a daily meal, access to showers, laundry and storage facilities, and mail service.

Passion Projects – Two Lives at a Time & The Refugee/Immigrant Outreach Team

Lynn Ward, Board of Directors of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and Stephen Blaylock, fellow of the Kansas Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers present a check to Laura Roddy, President of Junior League of Wichita; and Jessica Williams, Junior League of Wichita grant writing  chair. Ward was presenting to Roddy a check for $5000 from the AAML Foundation for the JLW Two Lives at a Time project. The Junior League of Wichita and the Wichita Children’s Home will help teen moms develop crucial life skills, including how to build healthy relationships and effective parenting practices.

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